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How do you learn to feel attractive again when you have permanent scars all over your body?
I’m 22, and I’ve been struggling a lot with my body and self-esteem because of permanent scarring from a severe acne infection.
I was born with extremely sensitive skin, and for years I couldn’t afford the treatment I really needed. By the time I was able to get more medical care, I had already developed scars across different parts of my body. Over the years, I’ve gone through liquid nitrogen, injections, and several other treatments. They have helped a lot, and many of the scars have gone down, but some of them will probably always be part of my body.
That has been really difficult for me to accept.
I feel embarrassed about people seeing my body, especially when it comes to dating, hookups, sex, or eventually having a serious partner. As a gay guy, I also feel like there can be a lot of pressure around appearance and having a perfect body, but I know this kind of insecurity can affect anyone.
Sometimes I genuinely feel like intimacy isn’t possible for me because I’m convinced someone will see my scars and think I’m ugly or unattractive. I compare myself to people my age with clear skin and wonder why someone would choose me when they could be with someone who doesn’t have these scars.
I know logically that scars shouldn’t determine whether someone deserves love, sex, affection, or a relationship, but it is much harder to believe that when it is your own body.
For anyone who has dealt with significant acne scarring, hypertrophic or keloid scars, surgical scars, burns, stretch marks, skin conditions, or anything else that made you feel ashamed of your body, what has dating and intimacy actually been like?
Did people care about your scars as much as you feared they would? How did you become comfortable letting someone see your body? Did you ever warn or tell partners about your scars beforehand, or did you just let them see them naturally? Have you ever been rejected because of them, and if so, how did you deal with it?
I’m not really looking for treatment recommendations. I’ve already spent years treating the scars. I think what I need now is advice on learning to live with them and stop feeling like they make me undesirable.
I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been through something similar, regardless of gender or sexuality.
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I’m 22, and I’ve been struggling a lot with my body and self-esteem because of permanent scarring from a severe acne infection.
I was born with extremely sensitive skin, and for years I couldn’t afford the treatment I really needed. By the time I was able to get more medical care, I had already developed scars across different parts of my body. Over the years, I’ve gone through liquid nitrogen, injections, and several other treatments. They have helped a lot, and many of the scars have gone down, but some of them will probably always be part of my body.
That has been really difficult for me to accept.
I feel embarrassed about people seeing my body, especially when it comes to dating, hookups, sex, or eventually having a serious partner. As a gay guy, I also feel like there can be a lot of pressure around appearance and having a perfect body, but I know this kind of insecurity can affect anyone.
Sometimes I genuinely feel like intimacy isn’t possible for me because I’m convinced someone will see my scars and think I’m ugly or unattractive. I compare myself to people my age with clear skin and wonder why someone would choose me when they could be with someone who doesn’t have these scars.
I know logically that scars shouldn’t determine whether someone deserves love, sex, affection, or a relationship, but it is much harder to believe that when it is your own body.
For anyone who has dealt with significant acne scarring, hypertrophic or keloid scars, surgical scars, burns, stretch marks, skin conditions, or anything else that made you feel ashamed of your body, what has dating and intimacy actually been like?
Did people care about your scars as much as you feared they would? How did you become comfortable letting someone see your body? Did you ever warn or tell partners about your scars beforehand, or did you just let them see them naturally? Have you ever been rejected because of them, and if so, how did you deal with it?
I’m not really looking for treatment recommendations. I’ve already spent years treating the scars. I think what I need now is advice on learning to live with them and stop feeling like they make me undesirable.
I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been through something similar, regardless of gender or sexuality.
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