2. I wrote this ebook for the version of me that couldn’t breathe after the breakup : stressLess-life

I wrote this ebook for the version of me that couldn’t breathe after the breakup

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Hey everyone,

I’ve been lurking on this sub for a while. About 2 months ago, I went through a breakup that completely leveled me. I’m talking about that physical chest pain where it feels like you genuinely cannot get a full breath of air. I lost 10kg amount of weight,I couldn't sleep, and I was obsessively checking their socials even though I knew it was hurting me.

I felt like I was losing my mind.

During the recovery process, I read every article, watched every YouTube video, and listened to every podcast I could find. Some helped, but a lot of it felt like generic platitudes ("Time heals all wounds!" / "Just focus on you!").

So, I started writing. At first, it was just journaling to get the noise out of my head. But eventually, it turned into a roadmap. I started documenting the specific psychological shifts and small, actionable habits that actually moved the needle for me—the things that took me from "I can't survive this" to "I'm actually okay."

I turned those notes into an ebook.

I wrote this for the version of me from time ago.The one who was staring at the ceiling at 3 AM wondering if the pain would ever stop.

Here are the 2 things from the book that helped me the most (so you don't even have to buy it to get value from this post):

➡️the "Withdrawal" Mindset: Realizing that love affects the brain like an addiction. When you break no contact, you aren't "seeking closure," you are looking for a dopamine hit. Treating it like a detox helped me stop blaming myself for missing them.

➡️Grieving the Future, Not the Past: I realized I wasn't missing who they actually were (because they hurt me), I was grieving the potential future I had built in my head. Once I separated the person from the fantasy, letting go became easier.

If you are currently in the thick of it, please know that the suffocating feeling does lift. It feels permanent, but it’s transient.

If you’re interested in the full guide, I put a lot of heart into it.comment”heal”

(Optional: If you are struggling financially because of the breakup—maybe you had to move out or whatever—DM me and I’ll send you a free copy. I’ve been there.)

Hang in there, guys.

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