2. I lost myself in loving someone : stressLess-life

I lost myself in loving someone

false

I dont know if this is the appropriate sub to post it but i think there comes a point when you love someone so so much and you choose to ignore every bit of pain they put you through. I am at that stage and i want to fix it. I want to love myself enough to stop letting myself go through this. I just want to know how? How do i navigate this situation?

For the context, 2 year relationship, he cheated in the beginning but i got to know later in the relationship, was in too deep by then, tried to fix it, he never took initiative to actually work on the issues. I ended up getting too tired of trying to fix things on my own. Broke up and even after the break up, we both didnt stop talking, trying to find ways to somehow fix it. Never really understood or let go of each other. One year i tried my best but somehow it never aligned. When i wanted to fix things he would push me away. And now when i finally want to stop, he makes those efforts that i wanted 2 years ago.

Now he want to fix things. And make all those efforts. But the worst part is how he projects his insecurities on to me by doubting me and claiming how i might be talking to guys or moving on when thats really not the case. I think its because I mentioned that i became friends with a person and that person ended up liking me but i told him it wasnt possible and i even blocked that friend because i was in no position to entertain that emotion and i also did not want to lead him on. But i think that made him even more insecure.

Because he said that i never talked to any other guy when we were together and that he thinks my intentions were wrong if i talked to another guy after we broke up. I dont understand how i ended up hurting him. Idk if what i did was so wrong.

I cant figure out how to change this situation. I care so much about what he thinks that i end up giving proofs of my innocence even when i have done nothing wrong. And then he nitpicks at everything i say and i panic and he picks at everything and it somehow seems that i am the one who is hiding something and when i am really not.

I just dont know how to change this situation. I am at my limit and i want this to stop. Idk how to do it without hurting him. I hate this feeling and i hate how much i love him even more than myself that i am unable to choose myself.

Please can anyone help

submitted by /u/Prestigious-Plum7693
[link] [comments]








Related links


I want to know the mind and emotions of a man towa. I want to understand what he is thinking and feeling at any given time. I want to know what makes him happy and what makes him sad. I want to know what he fears and what motivates him. I want to know his hopes and dreams. I want to know everything about him.


Addiction Is Messy, But These Things Help Me Stay Clean


5 Ways to Use Movement (Not Exercise) to Support Your Mental Health


My Second Mother: When Someone Steps Up Like Family Never Did


just sitting silently


How to Release the Fear That Holds You Back and Keeps You Small


What Happiness Means and How I’m Boosting My Day-to-Day Joy


why am i always in one-sided relationships


Psychological behaviour of husband with his wife who failed in love before marriage


What makes you dislike yourself?


When You’re Ready for Change: You Need to Believe in Your Future Self


4 Anxiety-Calming Techniques I Wish I Used When I Freaked Out on a Plane


What type of doctors experience the most stress?


Why is it significant to overcome stress?


How I Stopped Chasing Men Who Hurt Me and Found Healthy Love : #stressless


Stay Comfortable


I have irrational thoughts that she’s better than me


Skills That You Can Learn From (A2) Trying Harder Isn\\\'t Always The Answer:stressLess-life.


How do we know what we want in our lives?


5 Simple Yet Essential Self Care Tips That Can Change Your Life


#2 . How do I stop putting my worth based on how men see me? : stressLess-life


Self love challenge - looking for a group to join!


People-Pleasers Are Liars: 3 Things We Gain When We’re Honest Instead


How to Deal With Low Moods: A 4-Step Plan to Help You Feel Better


One words to define love story Hater





does depression affect sperm quality


What is the difference between stress and emotions? The WHO has defined them as two different life skills and I am not able to make a difference.


What are some signs that show a lack of confidence in a person's speech or behavior?


Is it good to live hubby without love or marry to BF?


growing up as the only black member of a white family movie


separation anxiety mother symptoms


why self-love and self-care is important


I am very sad every day. I have decided not to live. What should I do?


why am i losing interest in things i used to love


never waste your feelings on someone who doesn't value your emotions meaning in hindi


I am very sad every day. I have decided not to live. What should I do?


Why is it significant to overcome stress?

Can-I-reduce-my-stress?

https://stressless-2021.blogspot.com/2022/06/reduce-my-stress.html

Getting Out Of A Slump

Me Exercising/dancing to Unbelievable by EMF. Not too great, but started doing this at 57 yrs......truly my inner child is coming out to play!:stressLess-life

Abandonment Issues



Increasing and practicing self worth and self love:stressLess-life

(A2) LIFE AND LOVE???:stressLess-life

Neon Genesis Evangelion and validating ones own existence:stressLess-life

Calmed myself down with loving energy.:stressLess-life

"Why do you forgive everyone but yourself?”:stressLess-life

How to accept belly fat?:stressLess-life



admiring myself all 2022 ??:stressLess-life



Self love feels so lonely:stressLess-life



Increasing and practicing self worth and self love:stressLess-life

(A2) LIFE AND LOVE???:stressLess-life

Neon Genesis Evangelion and validating ones own existence:stressLess-life

Calmed myself down with loving energy.:stressLess-life

"Why do you forgive everyone but yourself?”:stressLess-life

How to accept belly fat?:stressLess-life



admiring myself all 2022 ??:stressLess-life



Self love feels so lonely:stressLess-life









😄 " Forget the past; look forward to the future, for the best things are yet to come. ..... "