2. Trying to find a self-love lesson here...felt upstaged by guest at casual wedding. : stressLess-life

Trying to find a self-love lesson here...felt upstaged by guest at casual wedding.

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Hello everyone, thank you for reading this post :´) I appreciate you.

So, I had a very very very simple and casual wedding. We joined three tables at a restaurant and that was it haha. Meaning we were celebrating around a loooot of random people. On a Saturday 11am. We were 14.

Im a simple casual girl. My family knows that.

Since it was a casual wedding, I did not even think of getting hair and makeup professionally done. I did have a lovely white jumpsuit that made me feel great. None of the other guests wore heavy or professional makeup and hair, and wore very simple clothes.

Then comes my SIL, late, looking like she just arrived at a red carpet or to compete at miss universe lol (im talking about hair and makeup not clothes, she was appropriately dressed gotta give her that haha) and it sucked. She was the only one that was this made up. She stood out. Most def. Even heard comments on how beautiful she was. I consider myself and her good-looking (almost similar lol) so if one goes heavy on the production then she will most def look better than the other.

In the pictures, if you crop the clothes, she looks like the bride (therefore I hate the pictures, sad)

I just feel like she should have tone down, knowing how I am more casual, and its just one day that its supposed to be about the bride. I don't think its hard to do that..

I feel like she stole my moment to "shine," I specially feel bad that my parents might have thought "what a beautiful woman her SIL is" and not "My daughter is the most beautiful bride", cause really, she looked great and it was the first time they met her.

I can never get this moment back.

At the moment of the ceremony and lunch, I was able to put this aside. But months later, when I remember this, I cry.

I try to remind myself that I am beautiful, with or without amazing makeup. That even if someone was better "produced" than me at my wedding, I still looked beautiful.

That even if I was not the most beautiful in the day I was supposed to be the most beautiful, I am still beautiful and worth to enjoy life today.

I struggle so much though, feeling shame that someone looked better than in the most important day, in front of EVERYONE I truly care about. Like I lost at the most important game and there is no other chance to get that moment back. I lost.

It hurts a lot though, a lot.

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