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How Do I Stop Letting Someone Who Hurt Me Affect My Peace?
I struggled with depression and anxiety throughout my early adulthood. I’ve overcome most of the depression, but it eventually led to severe burnout, something I’m still working through. Thankfully, most days are good now, and I’m slowly learning how to take better care of myself and rebuild my confidence.
One of the hardest things I still struggle with is self-doubt. I often find myself wondering whether I’ll ever be good enough for someone to truly choose me, commit to me, and love me wholeheartedly. Past experiences have made those fears difficult to silence. I’ve been in situations where someone was confused between me and another girl, where someone didn’t want to commit to the relationship, and most recently, where my boyfriend cheated on me—and continued talking to other women even after I found out.
I don’t want my ex back. I know that. But I still struggle with the anxiety of knowing he’s talking to multiple other women. Part of me feels angry and hurt by it, and another part of me finds it difficult to completely let go. I think some of that comes from the way I love. I love deeply, loyally, and wholeheartedly, and even after someone has hurt me, I tend to empathize with them and understand why they behaved the way they did.
Sometimes, I forgive people for things that I probably shouldn’t forgive. My empathy can make it difficult for me to accept that understanding someone’s pain or reasons doesn’t mean I have to excuse their actions or keep giving them access to me.
Despite everything I’ve experienced, I still believe that real love exists. I believe that because I know how deeply I am capable of loving someone. I know the kind of love I have to give, and I’m slowly learning that the right person won’t make me question whether I’m worthy of receiving that same love in return.
Right now, I’m trying to shift my focus back toward myself. I want to lessen my anxiety, stop looking for reassurance in other people, and become more comfortable with letting go of things I cannot control. I’m learning that healing doesn’t mean I never feel anxious, hurt, or insecure again. It means I don’t allow those feelings to decide my worth or dictate who I give my energy to.
I’m still healing. I’m still rebuilding myself. But I’m getting better, and most importantly, I’m learning that I deserve to choose myself too.
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I struggled with depression and anxiety throughout my early adulthood. I’ve overcome most of the depression, but it eventually led to severe burnout, something I’m still working through. Thankfully, most days are good now, and I’m slowly learning how to take better care of myself and rebuild my confidence.
One of the hardest things I still struggle with is self-doubt. I often find myself wondering whether I’ll ever be good enough for someone to truly choose me, commit to me, and love me wholeheartedly. Past experiences have made those fears difficult to silence. I’ve been in situations where someone was confused between me and another girl, where someone didn’t want to commit to the relationship, and most recently, where my boyfriend cheated on me—and continued talking to other women even after I found out.
I don’t want my ex back. I know that. But I still struggle with the anxiety of knowing he’s talking to multiple other women. Part of me feels angry and hurt by it, and another part of me finds it difficult to completely let go. I think some of that comes from the way I love. I love deeply, loyally, and wholeheartedly, and even after someone has hurt me, I tend to empathize with them and understand why they behaved the way they did.
Sometimes, I forgive people for things that I probably shouldn’t forgive. My empathy can make it difficult for me to accept that understanding someone’s pain or reasons doesn’t mean I have to excuse their actions or keep giving them access to me.
Despite everything I’ve experienced, I still believe that real love exists. I believe that because I know how deeply I am capable of loving someone. I know the kind of love I have to give, and I’m slowly learning that the right person won’t make me question whether I’m worthy of receiving that same love in return.
Right now, I’m trying to shift my focus back toward myself. I want to lessen my anxiety, stop looking for reassurance in other people, and become more comfortable with letting go of things I cannot control. I’m learning that healing doesn’t mean I never feel anxious, hurt, or insecure again. It means I don’t allow those feelings to decide my worth or dictate who I give my energy to.
I’m still healing. I’m still rebuilding myself. But I’m getting better, and most importantly, I’m learning that I deserve to choose myself too.
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