2. The gym didn’t fix my self-esteem. It made it worse. : stressLess-life
The gym didn’t fix my self-esteem. It made it worse.
Working out doesn't make me feel better about myself. It makes me feel worse.
Everyone says working out will improve your confidence and boost your mood. Get stronger, lose fat, look better, feel better. Exercise is supposed to make you happier, give you more energy, and make you feel better about yourself. I believed that for a long time, and I've put real effort into getting in better shape.
The problem is that the more I work out, the worse I feel about myself. Before, I could kind of ignore my body. Now I'm constantly looking at it. Fat. Muscle size. Proportions. My face. My height. Every improvement just makes the things I can't change stand out more.
I've already lost weight. I've already made progress. And it made no difference. I'm still ugly. I can keep losing fat. I can build more muscle. I can get lean. I can probably make my body about as good as it's realistically going to get. But I'll still be ugly. The gym can't make me taller. It can't change my facial structure. It can't fix the parts of my appearance that actually bother me the most.
And now I feel like I've basically reached my limit with it mentally too. I can't keep convincing myself to pick up another weight for no good reason. I hate going to the gym. I'm tired and cranky before I go, I'm miserable while I'm there, and I'm usually tired and cranky afterward too. There isn't some runner's high or confidence boost waiting for me at the end. I just feel relieved that it's over.
The worst part is that I don't even feel like I can quit. The only reason I still go is because I know I'd be even uglier if I didn't. So working out has stopped being something I do because I think it'll make me attractive. Now it feels more like maintenance. I'm putting myself through something I hate just to stop myself from looking worse.
Has anyone else gotten to this point? Where working out stopped making you feel like you were improving yourself and started feeling like something you had to do just to keep from going backwards?
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Working out doesn't make me feel better about myself. It makes me feel worse.
Everyone says working out will improve your confidence and boost your mood. Get stronger, lose fat, look better, feel better. Exercise is supposed to make you happier, give you more energy, and make you feel better about yourself. I believed that for a long time, and I've put real effort into getting in better shape.
The problem is that the more I work out, the worse I feel about myself. Before, I could kind of ignore my body. Now I'm constantly looking at it. Fat. Muscle size. Proportions. My face. My height. Every improvement just makes the things I can't change stand out more.
I've already lost weight. I've already made progress. And it made no difference. I'm still ugly. I can keep losing fat. I can build more muscle. I can get lean. I can probably make my body about as good as it's realistically going to get. But I'll still be ugly. The gym can't make me taller. It can't change my facial structure. It can't fix the parts of my appearance that actually bother me the most.
And now I feel like I've basically reached my limit with it mentally too. I can't keep convincing myself to pick up another weight for no good reason. I hate going to the gym. I'm tired and cranky before I go, I'm miserable while I'm there, and I'm usually tired and cranky afterward too. There isn't some runner's high or confidence boost waiting for me at the end. I just feel relieved that it's over.
The worst part is that I don't even feel like I can quit. The only reason I still go is because I know I'd be even uglier if I didn't. So working out has stopped being something I do because I think it'll make me attractive. Now it feels more like maintenance. I'm putting myself through something I hate just to stop myself from looking worse.
Has anyone else gotten to this point? Where working out stopped making you feel like you were improving yourself and started feeling like something you had to do just to keep from going backwards?
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