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So you are probably tired of seeing me here by now but I had an idea. I have been overthinking a lot unfortunately and this idea came up. I want to know if I should do it or not.

I will not explain my whole story again but for those who do not know, very briefly, my ex broke up with me because of trauma related to distance. We lived three hours apart. She is not a bad person at all but fear and confusion messed with her head.

Getting straight to the point, I thought about going to her city in March during my vacation and spending a week with her. I am 19 years old and I do not have stability yet. I am just at the beginning of many things and that makes this situation harder but that is life.

While writing this I realize this idea comes more from my heart than from my rational mind. The idea would be to stay one week at her place. She says she wants to see me in person and she even says she wants to hug me, but our situation is very complex. I do not know how this would actually work and I do not know if she would even accept it since it would be at her house.

At the same time I want to respect her decision, her past trauma and her confusion. But my heart says we only live once and my brain says something completely different.

And even if people in the comments tell me it is a good idea and that I should follow my heart because we only have one life, I am scared. I am scared she might say no and that she does not want things to be like this. Or I am scared that I go there and she later says she still feels bad about the distance. It feels like no matter what I do, someone gets hurt.

I am also scared about my parents. Some of you might think this does not matter because I am already an adult and I agree with that. But my parents are afraid of everything. If something happened with my older brother they would let him go because he already has his life together, but with me they have always been extremely protective. I want their support but I am afraid they will start yelling at me or that we will have a big argument and I hate arguments.

So I would really like to know what you think.

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