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Has somebody who never liked you said something positive to you about yourself, even if only once?

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(This is going to be a longer read).

Recently, a person who doesn't see me as worthy of their attention told me "You're not good-looking, your voice just sounds plain bad when you talk, you behave strangely, but you're intelligent". Now, he's from an older generation and probably doesn't like me because I am not classically the portrait of my gender, let's say, aesthetically. I look androgynous due to my body shape, and it's true many people have mistaken me for a boy on different occasions, especially since my hairstyle gives me that certain, however you want to call it, either disadvantage or benefit. My face has ambiguous features as well. My walk as well. The way I look and walk like is not intentional. My hunched shoulders and position of my right foot make my walking style awkward, something similar to light trotting. I have a deep, almost masculine voice, which gets deeper when I sing (he's heard me). Low and husky. Apparently, he thinks the slight husk in it makes it worse, awful. To be honest, I didn't know I had it. He told me it's very audible. About my behavior. I am extremely shy and socially awkward. I like people, but interactions are too much for me sometimes. I'd like to be more "out there". If it weren't for my crippling timidity and overthinking, I rather that would be the case. Fixable, but still. For now I'm working at bettering my experiences in public, and he's picked up on that, of course. Calls me strange behind my back. School had many bullies and few kids to properly talk with. I only recently made friends, after a lifetime of spending time alone. In addition to that, this followed the pandemic, a time when the rules in town had me stay inside more than I wished, without any outside interaction. While I know my behavior and thoughts are not what you would normally consider usual, I do not believe I am on the spectrum or suffering from a mental condition. But he can't deny that there is one "good" thing about me, that being my mind. He knows I've gone to two schools during my elementary school education, I got good grades, practiced homeschooling from middle school to highschool, I excelled academically, got into college in Germany just recently, where I'm currently studying psychology. Seems I have synesthesia, as I can make connections to help me in school or different situations by using colors, a method that causes words, numbers and musical notes to appear in my mind in their own color; also helped me learn piano, mostly by myself. He can't say only bad things about me, so he believes I am intelligent because my record as a student in all those twelve grades and first year of college is an indicator of my education. Besides, he knows the topics of discussion I am interested in (mostly science, literature and music, with a lot of information on dates and diverse projects in the fields mentioned). Yeah, I think I'm being bullied by somebody older. Share your experience with me.

TL;DR: An older guy has some beef with me and considers me to be a freaky-looking nutcase with an awful voice, although his belief is that I have a high level of intelligence.

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