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Gave up a 4 day trip to VA to prioritize myself…

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I met this guy and it started off well- too well. I was lovebombed, and didn’t realize until he immediately distanced himself with no warning- leaving me confused and angry, especially with me being emotionally vulnerable at the moment. He started by adorning me with gifts and trips, despite barely knowing each other. I was fully convinced he genuinely liked me and was showing his appreciation for me.

Then he let the mask down. He told me the actual truth about things he stood on- his stances on monogamy, his history of cheating, his feelings for his ex. I was HURT. Especially with things going on in my personal life right now, I thought he was my recluse. My peace. I immediately told him I didn’t like being lied to and ended things. Out of desperation, I proposed to be friends with benefits, knowing I still had feelings for him.

With that being said, we had a 4 day trip to VA planned. I was on board (but hesitant/questioning) with going for the intention of having fun for myself, which I realized wasn’t realistic given the amount of feelings I still had for him. I wanted to keep in contact with him between the time we broke up until the time we left for the trip- a mistake and a blessing in disguise. I tried to keep it casual, but still engage in conversations; he did the complete opposite. He was giving me half assed answers and only seemed interested when I made the conversation sexual. I knew that this is the same energy I would get on the trip and immediately weighed out the pros and cons of going. At one point I expressed to him how flabbergasted I was when he switched his feelings up on me so quickly. He responded by mocking me, calling me a “fan” and saying I was “hooked”. Something in me immediately recoiled, knowing I was disrespecting myself by continuing to anticipate care from this man, trip or not.

I did want to go, and still do. It would be a great way to shake off this excess stress and take my mind off things, and financially I can’t take myself 😓 But as long as he’s the only option, I will stay where I am and not continue to disrespect myself.

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