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Struggling with my Convictions

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I've been having a hard time today staying focused on what I know is best for me in the long run and I want to vent, maybe find some support in this. I'm celibate, or rather it's more accurate to say that I'm a virgin, but I'm not completely inexperienced. I've had boyfriends and done some things minus full intercourse. The reason I've waited is because I need to feel a lot of safety, trust, and reassurance in the level of commitment from the other person before I feel fully comfortable to go the next step. This is probably due to some childhood trauma or just my personality, but it's always been important to me and I have enough self-awareness and understanding to know that casual sex or sex without these factors would hurt me more mentally and outweigh anything I could possibly gain from just doing it.

All that to say is that I'm ready.

I'm 27 years old and I'm ready to experience sexual intimacy with a partner that I feel really connected with. I recently broke up with my ex a little over 2 months ago and maybe the loneliness of that is making me feel more desperate for connection but it's been a struggle to not just give in and have sex with the first hot guy that offers it to me or message my ex and offer what I know he's been wanting for a while with no strings attached.

In my frustration, I minimize how much this means to me since it's a strong place of vulnerability for me. Attraction and sex are very emotional for me. I can't do it casually and not put weight on the act. I also don't know how I will act afterward given it will be my first time and I have to trust that the person I'm with will be supportive. Kissing and less intimate acts have caused me to become very attached to people who didn't deserve it, I can only imagine how I will feel after experiencing this for the first time and feeling used.

All of that to say, today I'm really struggling after one of my matches on a dating app told me he was only looking for casual and wanted to hook up. I told him I was looking for something serious and he told me he wasn't but he could be a pit stop until I find what I'm looking for...It's frustrating because it's rare for me to actually be attracted to someone physically on a dating app and when I do it always feels disappointing when we're unaligned. I just want to say "f" it and go with the flow. Get the instant gratification and deal with the fallout later...but I know it won't be worth it. Sigh. Being like this sometimes really sucks but for my personal situation, I see my discipline as the truest form of self-love.

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