2. I struggle to feel smart or interesting anymore. : stressLess-life

I struggle to feel smart or interesting anymore.

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I feel like two different people. On one hand, most people who know me feel that i am adventurous, risk taking, smart, fun to be around, and interesting. ive had so many people before tell me that they were intimidated in class to speak up after me, that when i've done something out of the ordinary (i.e. recently booking a solo trip to europe after quitting my shitty job) they say "yeah that sounds like you in the best way", and things like that. I've been generally pretty confident in myself and who i am as a person, strong sense of self worth, etc. however.

i am currently in a relationship with someone who is, and i don't say this lightly, the smartest person i've ever met. they somehow know everything about everything, and not only in a sense that they just know random facts, but they always have well thought out, coherent, and in depth perspectives on these facts. imagine you talked to an expert scholar professor on something obscure in a college class, but with EVERYTHING. i love my partner so much and this is something that has always been very attractive to me, especially as my ex was a bit dull and only cared about lacrosse and the gym, but over time i realize that i have this sense of never being enough, being too boring and uninformed to have a conversation with, etc. and they have said before that "i don't know anything about anything," that "i could really benefit form reading more...about anything at all..." and things like that. in a conversation about this very issue, he said he cannot understand how people dont seek out this information about the world and if the world is just inherently boring to them (and it felt obvious that "people" meant "people like me") and it struck a nerve.

i find the world so fascinating, so exciting, but in my own way, a very experiential way; like get outside an explore, talk to people, that kind of thing. his idea of the world being fascinating is reading every wikipedia article on earth to understand everything that has ever been (and to be clear, i think about of these are good and valid). knowledge and constantly seeking out answers to questions in the world is so important to them, but as someone with adhd, anxiety, and depression that keeps getting worse, the last thing in the world i feel capable of doing is reading about world events and history and go down rabbit holes of random knowledge.

i feel like am struggling to remember what makes me ME in this relationship. i don't know what makes me interesting or exciting or worth being around when i am with him. even with my own personal hobbies (art and writing and photography, anything artsy i love) he has commented that he can't be as creative as he wants around me because i don't know enough about it, and it will slow him down. at this point i'm just rambling, but i feel worthless. i feel like a partner that exists to have sex with, to provide emotional support in challenging times, and to be relaxed and laugh with when things are going well/feel easy. otherwise, i feel like dead weight.

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