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I think I've figured out why I struggle with self love

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I hope this is okay to share here, as I'm new; I don't have anyone in my life I feel I can discuss this with as freely as I'd like to.

A little background, I've struggled my entire life with deep depression, anxiety, and self hatred. I was abused in ways different than physical or emotional by different extended family members, and my parents had a very volatile relationship that involved a lot of yelling and hitting, both each other and me and my siblings. I was and still am my mother's emotional trashcan and she has shared with me things a child never should be privy to about their parents' marriage. Now they're both aging and my dad is struggling with a terminal illness and we are preparing for the inevitable. Many of the relatives that abused me are dead or long estranged. I feel like I'm left holding the bag and I struggle badly with an eating disorder and scary thoughts about not wanting to be here anymore (this is under control currently). I've tried so many things from journaling to talk therapy to diet changes to exercise regimens to EMDR and can't seem to shift how I speak to myself and treat myself. I can't seem to find the will or reason to value myself.

Today I was sitting on my lunch break, not thinking about much in particular and something suddenly occurred to me. I think I may struggle with loving myself because I am afraid if I try, I might find that loving myself comes very naturally and easily. If that happens, then it means I have to face the reality that there is no terrible fatal flaw inherent in me that explains why the people who should have loved me and treated me correctly chose not to do so. And I know no one owes me anything. I just struggle to reconcile being mistreated this way by family.

Does anyone else feel this way? Has anyone had this revelation and successfully treated themselves better as a result?

Thank you for listening.

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