2. How to actually enjoy spending time alone when you're finally able to be alone without worrying about loneliness? : stressLess-life

How to actually enjoy spending time alone when you're finally able to be alone without worrying about loneliness?

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So I always had trouble making/keeping friends and I would try way too hard, hence why I ended up never really having any worthwhile friends, except for one who stuck around with me the whole time. The one friend still wasn't enough though, and I'd constantly keep trying to find more, whenever I could. Essentially, most of the decisions I made in my life were in some way influenced by the desire to find more friends.

Now, after therapy and lots of working through trauma and emotions and all that jazz, I'm perfectly fine with the solitude and feel content with only having one whole friend in my life. The thing is, now that I gave up the whole "finding more friends" thing, I don't really know what to do with myself, in my free time.

Previously, I would exclusively focus on hobbies that involved other people in some way, so I would always maximize my chances at meeting new people making friends. I grew bored of most of those hobbies now, or perhaps I never even liked them to begin with.

Partying, sports, social club activities, even gaming I used to do specifically for meeting people online, it's actually how I met my friend. Gaming is something that did stick with me even now, I'm having a blast playing through a bunch of singleplayer games.

But aside from that, I don't really find myself being particularly intrigued by any of those other solo hobbies I keep reading about. Arts and crafts, books, plenty of non-social sports too.

I feel like the issue isn't so much that I don't know what to do exactly, but it's more so that I don't quite know how to genuinely enjoy spending time alone. As content as I may be with my own presence, I still find it just.. awfully boring. I'd absolutely prefer to just do one of those social hobbies, even if I won't be making friends there, but still that's not the point. The point is that I should learn to have some fun in my own company, rather than constantly relying on other people to help me out.

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