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Friendship breakups and how to balance my expectations with my self worth

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I cut things off with one of my best friends last night and I don't know if it was the right call.

We've been really close friends for the past year. There was a point when we would see or call each other every day and she came to my college graduation with my family. She was a really important person in my life and she still is.

We're work friends and things changed a bit in the winter when she became a manager, but we found ways to keep the friendship outside of work and it wasn't a huge problem (now it is). Then in spring she started a new relationship, and of course we weren't talking or hanging out as much as we used to. It was cool with me until she canceled our plans for my birthday day-of, and since then we've just grown really far apart. We haven't hung out in maybe 4 months. I can't remember the last time she texted me, aside from last night (apologizing because she forgot we had plans and stood me up). It's to the point where we don't say hi to each other, and every time I try to talk to her and make sure she's okay she's defensive and she's shutting me down.

From what I can see she's going through some personal stuff. But she clearly doesn't want support from me, and I've been working on not draining my energy into things that feel shitty. She said last night that she wants to be friends but she doesn't want to speak to each other or make any kind of plans with each other, and that I can support her from a distance. I told her I'd rather just let it go for my sake. She has other friendships that aren't on the back burner, and she has a supportive boyfriend, and I feel like I deserve better from my friendships than the silent treatment for months on end.

It sucks. I cried my eyes out about it. And I don't know if I'm just expecting too much. Maybe I should have said "Oh it's cool just hmu when things are different". I'm going through a lot myself and I'm just learning that it's better to be lonely than to surround myself with people who make me feel lonely. I don't want to bail on her or on the friendship but I don't see it changing anytime soon. I have a super small social circle of people I treat like family, and she was not disposable to me. I'm just feeling really shitty about it.

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