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How do you heal your inner child without therapy?

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I would absolutely love to do some therapy that actually helps, but so far I was pretty unlucky with therapists who were judgemental, didn't fully understand my struggles, and other kinds of being unhelpful.

So I figured I'd just ask around here. Maybe there's someone out here who has similar issues or knows of any alternative options that potentially help.

Basically, what I gathered thus far is that it's likely that I need to work on "healing my inner child", as some people would put it. I already looked up a few articles and instructions on this kind of thing, and I did attempt to follow them, rather consistently as well, but it wasn't really helpful to me in the long run.

My problem and root cause of my mental health issues is that my parents honestly just sucked at their role when I was a kid. They were never really there for me, not just emotionally but physically as well, I practically grew up alone because my parents were constantly out and about. It really didn't help that, whenever they were home, they never really acknowledged me much either, were quite toxic at times as well.

I'm currently working on getting diagnosed for ADHD and autism because I am likely to have those, and that, paired together with being a loner when I was younger, means I was the notorious weird kid, which obviously further reinforced the loneliness I was experiencing. Naturally I didn't understand any of that at the time, because I was just disconnected from my emotions.

Nobody ever explained to me how emotions worked, so I kinda just fumbled through life and found plenty of ways to cope in my own way, by doing all sorts of unhealthy things. Social media, video games, porn. That doesn't sound quite so bad but I'm gonna be honest: I totally would have done far worse things like drugs as well if I could have, but since I was just that much of a lonely recluse I had no social contacts to actually get to any drugs in the first place.

Anyway, fast forward to not so long ago and I'm trying to now work through my issues via therapy, which as I mentioned was no help so far. I began to actually come out of my shell, foundnd some actual hobbies, made friends, all that healthy people stuff. And yet I feel as lonely as I've ever been, as if nothing really changed.

I fail to make any genuine, deeper intimate connections with people because I frankly can't really do that with myself, so of course I'm not gonna do that with someone else either. So far I only really have shallow and superficial surface-level friends, nobody who I'm remotely content with, and the fault lies solely within myself, I'm aware of that. Hence why I've been trying to do the whole "heal your inner child" thing, so I can hopefully deal with my very deep underlying problems and start opening up to people.

But that's where I've hit a roadblock: I really just don't know what I'm supposed to do when I'm doing this "inner child" work, or how I'm even supposed to feel. This is all strange to me and none of my previous therapists could actually help me getting through this roadblock.

Would seriously appreciate it if anyone has something to say, even if they don't quite know how to help either.

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